Whoever said words don’t hurt was lying. So is anyone who denies that words can create powerful, lasting change. Today, pay closer attention to your conversations, internal dialogues, and thought processes — especially those that undercut you. If a chat with a friend, romantic partner, or inner voice feels activating, there’s something there to tend to. Resist the temptation to ignore what’s tender. When you acknowledge the sore spot, you allow it to transform.