Ideally, home is where you go to recover from life’s demands. But sometimes even your roots can seem a little tangled. If your projects around the house feel unfocused or your relationship with family or chosen family is hard to parse, resist fighting for clarity. If you can’t decide what color to paint the kitchen wall or whether your aunt’s text was passive-aggressive, take a pause. Relaxing the effort to understand will help you miraculously land on the right answer.