You’ve probably heard about the Law of Attraction (LoA) that says if you want something badly enough you’ll draw it into your life. This is an axiom that’s been around for years, but does it work? Is all you have to do is wish for something hard enough, and you’ll have it?
No.
The problem with wanting something so badly is that it actually creates a scarcity. According to dictionary.com, some of the definitions of the word want mean, “Absence of deficiency of something desirable or requisite, lack, the state of being without something desired or needed, the state of being without the necessaries of life, destitution, poverty, a sense of lack,” and more.
When you want something, you’re actually creating a lack of that very thing in your life!
This all goes back to the LoA then, where like energy attracts like energy. If you’re spending all your time focusing on what you are missing and creating that want in your life, you’re going to create more want—in this case, more emptiness, more lack—because of where you place your attention.
When that goal gets out of balance, when it turns into something just short of desperation, that’s where the problem arises. In this instance, you’re not really making any effort to reach your goal. Instead, you’re focusing on that goal being tantalizingly out of reach; you want for it, rather than you desire to make it come to pass. It’s a subtle, but vital, difference.
The mind is a very powerful tool in this instance. That is why it’s possible to want something too much. Wanting makes you miserable. It focuses on what’s missing in your life. It invokes the LoA in a negative way, often with some challenging consequences.
Society runs on want, and it’s why so many people are unhappy. The media tells us you’re supposed to want this car, or want to wear these clothes, to listen to this music, or want to look like this icon—and if you don’t, then you’re some kind of an outcast, you don’t want the same things as everyone else, so therefore you’re wrong!! What kind of message is that sending?
Want has become so much a part of daily language that it’s contributing to your downfall. You might even tell the waitress, “I want coffee,” rather than perhaps saying, “I’d like coffee.” Same message, but such a different energy is created by the alternative wording! This is called empowered language.
It’s easy to do, but much harder to really get into the habit of using, particularly in today’s materialistic society!
It’s fine to have dreams and to build your castles in the air. That’s where they belong! If they just stay there, though, then you’re not going to accomplish anything. You have to work to build the foundations under those castles and then pull them into reality with you in order to see them become a reality.
If you don’t then your goals are going to remain wishes, no matter how badly you want them. There’s that word again!
Usually, though, the reason you aren’t successful is because you get in your own way and create a resistance to what you want coming toward you.
Let’s say someone asks you to go out for a meal and you don’t have the money to do so. It’s so easy to say, “I can’t afford it,” and boom, you’ve created scarcity! What else could you have said? That gets heavy, doesn’t it?! When you apply empowered language, “I want this,” becomes, “I’m making this happen.”
It turns “My life is lacking because this isn’t here,” into “My life is richer because I’m making this manifest.” The LoA works, it really does. It’s just so misunderstood! It strengthens where you aim your attention. You have to have laser-like focus in order to draw your desires to you, and not to increase the space between where you are now and the goal you want to achieve.
Far too often people moan the LoA doesn’t work, and that’s rubbish. It has to work; it’s a law of physics! The reality is that the focus was placed on the want, rather than on the goal.
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