If questions around shared resources feel weighty, carve out a couple of hours alone to journal through these thickets or reach out to a therapist. The vulnerability of giving and receiving support can kick up the most stubborn of ghosts, so take your time as you befriend these shadows. Shine a light on your worst-case scenarios and then bring in evidence to the contrary. By sweeping your flashlight over your own mental blocks, you’ll ensure that you’re entering into the agreement from a place that feels safe and regulated.