In any quest of individuation, it’s the paths we don’t take that actually shape us. Though it may feel like your whole wardrobe has to go or your hair won’t fall the way you want it, embrace this discomfort as the launch pad of change. It’s never comfortable being faced with exactly what we’re not, but trust that this process is sculpting You 2.0 from raw marble. The more you can wield a firm but compassionate “no”, the closer you’ll feel to the hum of your soul.