If your grief feels more raw or activated today, that’s okay. Pay close attention to how you talk yourself through it. Voices that judge you for “still” having a hard time or insist you “should” feel better by now are just plain wrong. That being said, acknowledging these stories is key to loosening their grip and deflating their authority — or, at the very least, to taking them with more grains of salt. So greet those unfair thoughts as they arrive. Then remind yourself that you’re doing just fine. Your words can be more healing than you think.