Ewwwww….it’s time for “The Talk.” It’s that moment in our relationships when we know we need to move forward, but don’t know how to do it, or don’t want to do it….yet. Much of that procrastination comes from Saturn being retrograde.
Saturn is the serious taskmaster of the planets, one of the planets that deals with karma, and one with that ticking clock reminding us of deadlines, projects, and every day responsibilities. Saturn is not always the planet we think to call on when we want to romance somebody or elevate our love lives. But if we want to finish 2019 with a solid lock on love, and we do, then we need to put that commitment procrastination on the back burner.
We need to make the karmic choice to get serious, or not. Should you stay or should you go? Should they stay or should they go? A decision needs to be made. Just committing to that decision is the hardest part. As Saturn turns direct, we’ll walk you through it with today’s Saturn direct love horoscopes to help you launch – “The Talk.”
We balk at the chance to commit or have “The Talk” because we worry our partner won’t meet us on the same page. So what? Do you want a commitment in love? Then you need to have that conversation. You win no matter how it goes. Either it finishes with you being in a committed relationship, or it ends with you safe in the knowledge that the one you are with is not ‘The One’ you are meant to be with. And that’s okay. Taking charge of this conversation is important for you to propel yourself in love the way the Universe wants you to.
In romance, Saturn is the father figure telling us what we need to do to maintain a healthy relationship, and keep it going to stand the test of time. But for the past several months, Saturn has been retrograde, and this has had us all procrastinating a little bit. We just want to have fun! And sometimes that means our duties slide, even in love.
So if you’ve been wanting to rewind time and reboot love, now is a good time to start taking that seriously. Saturn turns direct on September 17, and this gives us the energy we need to bring some forward motion on the commitments in our relationships. Whether you want to move forward with someone, or without them, the only way you are going to do this the right way is by having, “The Talk”.
But “The Talk” is scary. So we are here to help you take that next step. No matter what zodiac sign you are, here’s how to launch “The Talk”, and get the answers you need in love, one way or another. These are simple tips, nothing to over-analyze here. Commit to a decision. Should you stay or should you go?
So let’s get to it!
Try this Saturn Direct in Capricorn Spread.
Here’s how to do it: Just ask. And pile on the romance. “Honey, let’s go out for dinner tonight, I want to do something nice.” You don’t need a million dollars to win here. You just need to see what your partner needs. Start by asking them what they want to do the day you want to have “The Talk,” and that first step will take you miles further towards your destination in love. Be sure to let them do most of the talking at dinner as well. Time to stop procrastinating.
Here’s how to do it: A little road trip with a lover is a great chance to expand both of your minds when it comes to the future. You can either go away for a weekend to a lovely B & B, or just hit the road for a little day adventure. “Honey, let’s hit that open market on the 5 we’ve been meaning to catch, I really want to spend the day with you.” And we’ll let you take care of the rest.
Here’s how to do it: Your eighth house often has a lot to do with finances, in addition to secrets and transformations. So one way to lock in “The Talk” is to open up a financial channel. Move in with someone, share a credit card, or even open a business with your amour. Or even just start talking about it. Saturn will be direct here for some time, so you don’t have to start dating and propose moving in on the same day. Start dropping hints and see where it goes. And if someone else is, and you just aren’t on that page yet, you need to pony up some truth. And say it exactly like that, Gem. “I think you’re really great, but I’m just not there yet.” Or, “Hey, are you ready for this step or should we slow down the pace now?”
Here’s how to do it: As a Cardinal sign, you have the advantage of being able to be direct and nobody will notice or care because anybody that loves you is already used to that. In fact, your partner loves this about you. But this could also be your biggest pickle too. So speak softly, lead with love, and remember your partner has words they want to say to you too. Be responsible with your partner’s feelings, and you will find commitment time comes sooner than you may think.
Here’s how to do it: You want to start noticing and honoring the little things in your partner’s life right now, and not showering, but just sprinkling little bits of attention here and there. You are Leo, right? Flattery is your middle name. So do that too! Notice her new earrings, compliment his job prowess, and just be supportive of those little things that come up in daily conversation. This is the Pre-Game strategy to “The Talk.” When the moment is right, and you will know when it is, it will be Game time. And you will find that someone is VERY receptive when you do! That gets you one inch closer to locking it in when you are both ready to get into Game mode. Game on, Leo!
Here’s how to do it: Lock in the commitment potential in your love game when you enjoy the little fun things in life, Virgo. Tell jokes, do things that are steeped in nostalgia with your partner. Just stoke those pleasure zones. When you do, you build a foundation with your partner, whether it’s someone you’ve been with for years or are just starting out with. Having fun is key to any successful relationship. So try to build those building blocks now, and Saturn direct is going to make this one go the long haul. “The Talk” will come natural to both of you when you do.
Here’s how to do it: If you are trying to have “The Talk” with someone, and it hasn’t really felt right yet, now is the time to start nurturing that domestic side. Home is where the heart is, Libra, and with your fourth house lit up with Saturn direct, tending to home responsibilities and bringing that nurturing side of you into love is going to lead you right to commitment. Cook your lover a home-cooked meal and stoke the fires of family and home, and you will see the energy for “The Talk” arrive easily. Don’t be afraid to begin throwing hints about moving in together, or even doing a real estate deal. When you do, you will see commitment talks increased on a grand scale.
Here’s how to do it: You may not have said the “L” word yet, but now is the time to start doing that. Don’t freak out! Saturn direct isn’t a one day transit. So start dropping seeds now that use the “L” word. “I love the way you leave me notes on the fridge every day,” or “I love that sweater on you.” It’s not that love isn’t natural to you, anything but. But saying those words to someone is scary for any zodiac sign, even you. Warm the both of you up by leading with feelings words, and watching the natural path they take for you in your life.
Here’s how to do it: You need to go about this the natural way, Sag. Announcing to a lover that you’ve been paying your bills on time every month is the surest way to raise their eyebrows, and not in the romantic way. Start showing your lover through small ways that you have your financial game in order, and then you will be a worthy investment to them. Start picking up the tab for things, make your gifts just a pinch more extravagant, you know the drill. Get your financial game en pointe and you win in love too.
Here’s how to do it: This one is an easy one, Capricorn. Just be you. To win in anything in love, you can’t pretend you are something that you are not. It’s okay to ask for what you want and need in love. That is how love works. Catering completely to their side of life is going to create an unbalanced situation. So lead with love and lead with your sense of Self in love. In time, you will see a nice thing percolate. You may not even need to launch “The Talk” yourself. Your partner may be so attracted to how you are true to yourself that they want to stick with that forever. Lead with YOU, Cap! It will work.
Here’s how to do it: Just look for signs. And also, ask for help from your angel. Clues and cues about how to start the launch are everywhere. And if you aren’t sure what to do with that, again, just ask. When you hear that song or see that movie you both love, or even see a movie poster of the movie you both love, that is your spirit guide sending you some clues about how to launch “The Talk.” Bring these clues and cues to your partner, and you will see “The Talk” happen naturally. Be serious and responsible about it and it will happen precisely when your spirit guide is hinting at. When you connect with your lover on a spiritual level, this is not just “The Talk” you are launching, but a way of life you both are going to share together.
Here’s how to do it: To launch “The Talk” using your social energy, it’s important to start as friends first in love, Pisces. Remind your partner of the simplest basis in love. Connect with each other on common ground, social connections, and just be friends first. Then, bring each other into your social realm and social game. When your lover sees you in this light, they will want to be part of your own life more. Be friends first, and remind your lover of that, and you will see this thing blossom into “The Talk,” sooner than later. Be friends first, but don’t stay in the friend zone too long is your only other cautionary tale, Pisces. And if you do, keep your karma clean by being honest with all parties.
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