Everything has a balance.
Good can’t exist without bad, life can’t exist without death, and light can’t exist without darkness. Is it surprising then that this is also true for the twelve zodiac signs?
When it comes to understanding how the good and bad traits in one person work uniquely together, there is much to be learned by looking at their personality secrets revealed by their Sun sign or zodiac sign. We call them the shadow and light sides of the zodiac, and today we are going to examine them more closely.
If the secret to finding a balance between each opposing force is awareness, then understanding both sides, and how one is not better or worse than the other, can help you better navigate your life! Knowing these two sides can also help you identify where in your world you need to challenge yourself to improve or scale back to release.
Many definitions tend to focus mainly on the positive side of things, and that’s natural. It’s often best to accentuate the positive as a means to overcoming the negative. However, you can’t ‘bright side’ things and hope they’ll all get better! If you really want to improve yourself, you have to look at what challenges you, what flips your switch, own it and move forward.
It’s also possible that your positive traits are somehow manifesting themselves in a negative manner. Someone who is compassionate and kind may get used and taken advantage of by others who have dubious integrity. Someone who is confident and independent might be brash and tactless because of it.
You are a complex blend of assets and liabilities, and only when you are prepared to take responsibility for what some call ‘the shadow self’ can you truly know yourself, and find contentment in who you are.
How does this manifest through the Sun signs? Use this as a starting point to identify what’s bubbling under the surface, what you don’t want others to know about you, or even what comes flying out when you’re stressed or angry.
Here are the light and shadow sides for each sign of the zodiac. Use them to understand yourself and others more deeply, and they can actually help you navigate those challenging situations by bringing more awareness and hopefully, improved understanding and communication! Whether you want to focus on your Sun, Moon, or Rising sign, these guidelines can help!
Their desire to be number one is the root of this. They won’t put their cards out on the table unless they feel safe and secure with you. If you make an Aries feel like they are your number one, you’ll get more out of them. Be gentle, because they may appear like they don’t care what anyone thinks of them, but they do, a lot!
You don’t suffer fools lightly and don’t think twice about putting them in their place, and if they cry, well, that must be a sign of their weakness rather than your insensitivity. Try to be less pushy and more persuasive, and you’ll find that your natural charm and charisma get you far more than your obstinacy.
The worst thing you can do with a Taurus is to call them lazy or stubborn. Instead, appreciate that they’re loyal to their opinions and find a way to compromise when you’re stuck in a rut with them. What Taurus really wants is a fair and balanced solution, not necessarily ‘their own way or the highway’.
When someone annoys you, you’ll remove your support or affection or both, and—like the raging bull in a china shop—you’ll let your temper loose and break something if pushed hard enough. Avoid being passive aggressive; it doesn’t suit your natural sensuality.
Try to cultivate some patience, and remember that your way isn’t the only way to do things.
The dark side of this zodiac sign includes superficiality, restlessness, and impulsiveness. This is due to the fact that they are the Mutable Air sign, always expecting something to blow in the wind and mess them up, so they’re likely to check their daily horoscope frequently. This paranoia can be a downfall.
Geminis cast a wide net knowing it’s not going to catch everything, but they hope to snare at least one thing. This confuses and even annoys many people. They may want to sell a house for example and say whatever they can to do it. Deep down, they’re crunching numbers and pitching the most logical parts to score the best deal.
Don’t get emotional when Gemini upsets you. Use facts and a rational approach and you will be appreciated because they always feel like nobody understands them at all.
You like the sound of your own voice, but you have to learn that others have their own story too, even if it doesn’t interest you. Communication is always a two way street. Turn on that Gemini charisma and really listen to others. It will win you the popularity vote, for sure!
This deeply private and emotional sign requires plenty of personal space and “alone time” to deal with the demands of the world. Those emotions can makes them self-pitying, self-absorbed, and oversensitive.
They also don’t like to admit when they are wrong – ever – which can be problematic. Cancer needs to learn to hear two sides without playing defense, or offense, in every conversation. Sometimes humans just talk and it doesn’t mean a major point needs to be made or won. Those dealing with a Cancer need to mind how they interact because the littlest thing can and will be taken personally and used against you. For a long time.
Of all the signs, you’re one of the best at emotional blackmail, but be careful how you use this. Those who know you will soon become wise to this tactic, and you run the risk of alienating them if you depend on it too much.
Unfortunately, strong Leos can have problems playing with others. People often view them as domineering, pretentious, vain, or melodramatic. A strong Leo type needs to learn to shine their light on others. That generosity of spirit makes everyone happy!
If Leo is hurt, you may not hear the roar, and that’s not always a good thing. People think that Leos need constant flattery to beef up their ego, and in a way that is true. Leo needs it because they desire the reminders that they are loved. If Leo doesn’t feel this from you, you are not going to hear from them for a while. Keep piling on the love for your Leo, and they are in it for the long haul. It’s what they do.
You like to be the center of attention, but you have to remember that this cuts both ways. It’s always better to have more fans than mere onlookers, and you want to draw the right kind of recognition to yourself, being known for your warm lion heart, rather than the bossy show off you have the potential to be.
Of course, all that analyzing can get in the way. Virgos can also be skeptical, inflexible, cold, and interfering. Virgo types can achieve their goals more easily by cultivating patience and allowing things to get a little messy once in a while.
However, Virgos are highly intelligent and definitely not boring. When Virgo is quiet, mind your behavior! A quiet Virgo is an observant Virgo, and they’re always taking in the details. One little secret about Virgo that others are always trying to figure out is, you’ll never understand them completely. They have a lot of depth, and those quiet times they are always just processing the details of what is going on around them and filing every detail into those depths. ‘Watch, and learn’, is Virgo’s life mantra.
You need to learn how to turn your criticism toward a constructive note, and be prepared to praise and forgive while you’re making the corrections. This goes for yourself, as well as others, because you’re usually your own worst critic, preferring to erase something—or someone—and go back to the beginning, rather than spending the time putting it right.
These wonderful qualities come with a downside. The Libra personality can be introverted, indecisive, and even unreliable. Keeping those scales balanced isn′t always easy!
Libra is also ruled by Venus, which can make them appear superficial, but these thinkers are anything but. Many already know that Libra is super critical due to their well known high intellect. They’re not always criticizing those in their world, they are often judging themselves first. Before you jump on a Libra, realize they’ve probably already done so themselves. Relationships with Libra are more harmonious when you uplift them before judging in return.
You’re not one for confrontation, but you will not tolerate one-sidedness. You might want to curb that temper a bit. You’ll make far more progress applying that energy towards doing something constructive to change things, rather than just ranting and raving about the current oppression of it all.
But their other side can get them in trouble. Scorpios can also be obsessive, manipulative, and unyielding. The trick for strong Scorpio types is to learn to recognize their impulsive negative qualities, then consciously choose to avoid giving way to them in the heat of the moment.
The chemistry with a Scorpio is unlike any other sign when things are going well. One of the biggest unknowns about Scorpio is that they are FULL of secrets. As the zodiac detective with an intuition for ferreting out facts, Scorpio will pry you open like a walnut to get everything out of you. You won’t even know it’s happening! To get intel from Scorpio takes a little bit more work, and finding common ground and being the first to bare all is a great way to get into their vault. That is Scorpio’s biggest secret of them all.
You don’t get mad, you get even. You’re cold and calculating and will cut someone off in a heartbeat. Just remember that your sneaky tactics will come to light eventually, even if you are using them more for defense than attack. Turn your scheming into something positive, for your enigmatic nature is part of your innate charm.
Their shadow qualities include a tendency to be overly blunt, restless, and unemotional. Sagittarians may have issues with commitment and often need direction.
This can be annoying to some of the more grounded and down to earth signs and Sagittarius gets a bad rap for being flighty and shallow as a result. The really big secret about Sagittarius is they have a deep side to them they don’t show many people. They’re afraid they’ll be judged if they do. This side of Sag is very philosophical, spiritual, and in many ways metaphysical. Tap into this side of Sagittarius without judgement and you’ll have a friend or lover for life.
Of course, they usually react—which is the desired response—and then it makes them look like the bad guy to someone who doesn’t understand the full story. You get your own way by going over the top with kindness and optimism, but you don’t have to do that.
You’re likeable enough as it is without having to manipulate people and play mind games to get what you want from others.
On the other hand, they can tend to be unimaginative, inhibited, or dictatorial. Capricorns who overcome these issues can climb the highest peaks of their potential.
Capricorns are also much more optimistic than they come off. Sometimes Capricorn is too optimistic and will shoot for the Moon on something to make more money, elevate their career, or the like. They are great starters, but Capricorn will not always finish the job.
This depth of optimism can sometimes work against them, and it can be misjudged as well. If you want to work well with a Capricorn, help them nudge that optimism along while keeping it grounded with a healthy dose of realism.
You hold a grudge forever, and don’t forgive easily. All of this takes so much energy though! Lighten up and let the old sea goat laugh. You’ve got a great sense of humor underneath it all, and no one will think less of you for letting it show. You’ll actually get more respect that way in the long run!
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The shadow side of Aquarius includes a tendency toward laziness, aloofness, and sarcasm. But since they′re so self-aware, overcoming these negative qualities motivates them.
They come off as a bit eccentric sometimes, and sometimes unfeeling. The truth is, Aquarius is really quiet and reserved because they don’t feel like they fit in. They are thinking of the bigger causes in life, the ones that impact humanity as a whole. They are also ruled by Uranus, the freedom-loving planet that likes to do things unconventionally. As such, this quiet, reserved and unconventional nature of Aquarius is often misconstrued.
When you can engage more with others rather than constantly remaining detached and independent, you’ll find that your loved ones really do have a lot to offer, even if it does make you a little bit uncomfortable to have to deal with all of that raw emotion.
But these qualities also contribute to their negative side. They can be escapists who may become lazy, oversensitive, or even self-pitying.
You need to be careful when Pisces is doing this. Pisces doesn’t like to get too attached because they are so super sensitive. So if your Pisces has disappeared, there’s a good chance they are contemplating that on a permanent basis. Pisces might regret it after the fact and you could hear from them again. If you don’t handle this cave time properly, then you are not going to be thinking the words, ‘dreamy and romantic’ when you try to pull Pisces out of that cave.
What you have to realize though is this only works up to a point. Once your loved ones realize that you’re manipulating them into being your enabler, they may withdraw their support. Take responsibility for your actions, and step out of your illusions into the real world.
You’ll find that there’s far more closeness and encouragement once you do, and after all, isn’t that what you really crave?
Use the knowledge of your shadow energy to help you gain some perspective on how you behave and use your self-awareness to prevent you from allowing your secrets and negative traits from having power and controlling your life. Even though it may be easier—perhaps even essential—to let the darker side of your Sun sign loose once in awhile, don’t make a habit of it. You’re a unique balance of light and dark, of positive and challenging traits.
Of course, the nuances of your Sun sign are just one facet of your personality. How the other planets dance around these characteristics is all part of what makes you who you are. If you’ve not had your full Birth Chart done, it’s a wonderful step to learning more about yourself and your potential.
After all, ‘know thyself’ is one of the greatest things you can master in life!
Having your negative traits thrown out in the open may seem overwhelming, but you have the power to energize the shadow or the light! By using your positive traits to conquer your negative ones, you can learn to understand yourself better and live a happier, more fulfilling life.
What “shadow” aspect of your Sun, Moon or Rising zodiac sign challenges you the most these days – and what did you discover about your innate strengths that can help you overcome it?
Did you discover any personality secrets today? The true path of enlightenment is always asking these questions. Be sure to bookmark your Daily Horoscopes to stay on top of how the daily transits impact your Zodiac sign.
This article was originally published June 7, 2018 and has been updated for astrological accuracy.